unfortunately, from experience. here are some signs:

1. you are having less fun participating in the fandom, in whatever way you do that. (you suddenly stop reading fics, your mutuals are annoying you on a hair trigger, you feel overwhelmed by your projects, you stop looking forward to new content, the only content you DO enjoy has to follow very specific, rapidly narrowing, or very uncommon parameters)
2. important to note, there are still good times! but there is an ambient stress or discontent growing that you’re not so sure about. could be more bad days than good ones, or an equal balance, or just enough negativity that it’s affecting you.
3. “discourse” and petty squabbles take up a significant portion of what you think about. you might get really heated about these arguments. sometimes, you are unable to make yourself stop thinking about these things at night, in idle moments, or in other situations where your mind needs to be elsewhere.
4. your commitments to the fandom are interfering with other things in your life, such as your social life, school/work, hobbies, or anything else you find important.
5. fandom has become your ONLY hobby
6. recent or upcoming changes in the media have made you unhappy and/or reluctant to engage

here’s what you do:

1. think about the patterns you usually engage in (what servers you visit/how much you backread/how much you need to feel on top of) and when you do these things. try to analyze what has become habit vs what you really enjoy most. cut back whatever you can from the former
2. CURATE YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA EXPERIENCE. look into blacklisting certain terms, leaving discord servers, mass-block users if you need to. don’t start fights. if discourse is stressing you out, make sure that you are not deliberately seeking out opinions that will upset you by searching for certain ships or users. do not use social media as a method of self harm: recognize what that means and whether you are doing it.
3. make deliberate time for your non-fandom hobbies. download a new craft pattern. go for a walk every day. join a club at school or in your local area.
4. establish alternate means of contact with your friends, and most importantly, BEGIN USING THEM. this can be via discord, phone numbers, a different social media account separate to the one you use for fan activity. find other common interests, steer conversation away from fandom. if you don’t start using these alternate methods of contact, things will be a LOT harder. we want to get your out of the fan environment that’s stressing you out while maintaining the social connections that are important to you.
5. if you are responsible for fan projects in some way, stop taking on new ones. make sure to share responsibilities you feel you have with other people so that if things get too much and you need to leave, you’ll have less strings attached.
6. that being said, recognize when you need to let go. yeah, you might have a project ongoing. but if you are in mental distress about it, you need to let it go. don’t feel pressured to do “just this one last thing” or a “grand sendoff” to a fandom.
7. be keeping track of the balance between “how much is this fandom making my life more good or less good, and how do i think that will change with time on my current path.”
8. if you don’t want to do something, STOP DOING IT. you really can just back out. communicate with others where necessary.
9. your mental wellbeing is always more important than the media or the fan community that you once loved. if you are not taken care of, you won’t be able to accomplish what you want to.

discodeerdiary:

discodeerdiary:

Y'all have got to get better at handling uncertainty. Sometimes two people will have a falling out and you legitimately won’t be able to tell which one was the abuser and which one was the victim. Sometimes you’ll encounter a stranger online who might be a channer troll trying to stir shit up or might be a deeply traumatized person trying their hardest to speak their truth. That person with the gendery vibes might be a trans egg or they might be a cis person who just does whatever the hell they want. You have got to learn to act appropriately when you can’t know everything.

The alternative is developing really silly forensic pseudoscience so you can draw up instant answers. Sadly this is extremely popular on the internet.

capricorn-0mnikorn:

athelind:

beardedmrbean:

azzy-the-christian-furry:

bisexualshakespeare:

raevenlywrites:

worldheritagepostorganization:

kolbye:

hokuto-ju-no-ken:

pukicho:

bog-dweller-official:

pukicho:

boob-a-chu:

trilllizard420:

pukicho:

trilllizard420:

pukicho:

Doctor: $140,000 a year

Furry artist on Patreon: $160,000 a year

i think you’re lowballing the furry art amount tbh

I’m sorry for the inaccuracies, Doctor Yiff

no matter how I respond to this I don’t look good, well played. i walked right into that

Well, furry artists are typically more competent and courteous than your average doctor, so I can see that.

Did you just legitimately tell me that a person who draws wolf ass is more competent than a dude who spent 8+ years in a university to give you your lung transplant?

doctors are bullshit and furry artists perform an infinitely more valuable service to society compared to them

You will die in 7 days

It took doctor’s like 10 years to diagnose what was wrong with me, some insisting I was faking for attention while a furry artist I knew just went “that sounds like crohn’s” after hearing me complain once and ended up being right

Also I can’t go to a doctor and ask them to draw Rouge the Bat wider than she is tall with tits to match, now can I

You could if you weren’t a fucking coward

World Heritage Post

Art by coolfrogdude together at last

[ID: a comic illustrating the above thread as if it was happening in a theater. The users are mostly shaped like their icons, pukicho is a pikachu and hokuto-ju-no-ken is a gengar. The last panel is gengar looks back where a speech bubble comes out of the crowd to say, “you could if you weren’t a fucking coward.” /end]

I can’t believe I’m actually seeing this post

Magic of tumblr,

I am morally obligated to add the YouTube video whenever this thread crosses my dash

I’ve seen this thread more than a few times. But this is the first time I’ve seen this video. So thank you for your service.

horse-is-a-horse-of-course:

vergess:

alexseanchai:

headspace-hotel:

soul-hammer:

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Hooray! Yay! Dykes!

I’m not seeing any naked adults in that screenshot…

…There’s something deeply messed up about how breasts, which are used by our species to feed babies, are considered to be so perverse and obscene that a child should never see them.

There aren’t any naked people in the entire video clip. There’s some people that you’d probably see less of their skin on a beach, but only because on a beach they’d probably be wearing a bikini top as well as whatever else they have on. And this is New York City, where toplessness is legal regardless of gender or assigned sex.

Toplessness for breasts is legal in most places in the US, unlegislated in almost all that remain, and only illegal in two states: Ohio and Tennessee.

This is because topless equality has been a basic push from feminists for literally decades, until Radfems and NeoCons bonded over wanting a trans genocide less than a decade ago.

Female Toplessness in the United States - Wikipedia

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It’s literally why the “no tits on tumblr” and other lesser SESTA/FOSTA consequences* like it were so jarring. It set back FORTY. YEARS. OF PROGRESS in the rights of people with breasts or perceived as women to wear the same clothes as people without.

Do not let conservatives lie to you about this. The majority of people in the us and the VAST majority of States recognize the right of people to not wear a damn shirt. It isn’t obscenity, it isn’t even nudity, it’s just something pericis men are allowed that everyone else isn’t.

Y'know.

Basic sexual discrimination.

*Y'all aren’t still on that “it was the Apple app store that caused the tit ban” shit, right? It was the literal US federal government. To be fucking clear.

fractangle:

Pride month vest project, a patch a day #14: All Pride is Kink to Bigots

dirhwangdaseul:

tododeku-or-bust:

toiletpotato:

tododeku-or-bust:

bloodofgrapes:

idsb:

Idk who this guy is but I’m just gonna leave this here without comment and hope the audience I’m indirecting it at finally understands something for once

Text transcription for easier reading:

Usually I wouldn’t address stuff like this but I feel like it as a conversation is bigger than me. I’m not gay; but I think the culture of trying to “find” some kind of hidden trait or behavior that a closeted person “let slip” is very dangerous. Overanalyzing someone’s behavior in an attempt to “catch” them directly contributes to the anxiety a lot of queer and queer questioning people feel when they fear living in their truth. It makes the most pedestrian of conversations and interactions in spaces feel less safe for our gay brothers and sisters and those may be questioning. It also reinforces an archetype many straight men have to live under that is often times unrealistic, less free, and limits individual expression.

I’ve been very clear about the intentionality I try to put into using my platform to push back against those archetypes every chance that I get. Being straight doesn’t look one way. Being gay doesn’t look one way. And what may seem like harmless fun and conversation may actually be sending a dangerous message to those struggling with real issues. I refuse to inadvertently contribute to that message. Happy Pride to all of my queer and questioning brothers, sisters, and individuals. I pray that you feel seen in ways that make you feel safe in the celebration that is this month. As an ally I continue to be committed to assisting in that where I can and helping to cultivate a future where we are all accepted and given permission to be ourselves.

TYLER JAMES WILLIAMS, EVERYBODY

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please also consider reading this thread by his younger brother, Tyrel Jackson Williams (who y'all may know as Leo from Lab Rats)

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AND HIS BROTHER TYREL, EVERYBODY

@afro-elf @comintoyoulive

girlbossgaslightguillermo:

genderkoolaid:

psa for cis people: it’s not “women and people who menstruate,” it’s just people who menstruate. adding “women and” implies that

1. the only relevant women are (menstruating) cis women, so there’s no need to add any qualifiers (like “cis”)
2. womanhood is central to menstruation & menstruation is central to womanhood by unnecessarily bringing up gender right before using a gender neutral phrase

just say people who menstruate. women who menstruate are people. saying “women and people who menstruate” is a nonsense phrase that only serves to soothe the egos of cis women. they can cope with not having their ciswomanhood centered, I promise.

Also if you think that’s “too long”, sometimes you can just say people and the context implies that you’re talking about people who menstruate. A sentence like “people who menstruate should have better access to menstrual hygiene products” and “people should have better access to menstrual hygiene products” mean the same thing. “women with period cramps are so brave” and “people with period cramps are so brave” is another example. just using people in thag context makes it clear you mean people who menstruate.

Also fuck the weird trend of saying women, trans men and femmes to talk about people who menstruate. Or AFAB people. Not all AFABs menstruate not all women or trans men menstruate. And femmes has absolutely nothing to do with menstruation. It’s so baffling thag people genuinely think this is inclusive language.

is-the-post-reliable:

intrigue-posthaste-please:

I’m watching that documentary “Before Stonewall” about gay history pre-1969, and uncovered something which I think is interesting.

The documentary includes a brief clip of a 1954 televised newscast about the rise of homosexuality. The host of the program interviewed psychologists, a police officer, and one “known homosexual”. The “known homosexual” is 22 years old. He identifies himself as Curtis White, which is a pseudonym; his name is actually Dale Olson.

So I tracked down the newscast. According to what I can find, Dale Olson may have been the first gay man to appear openly on television and defend his sexual orientation. He explains that there’s nothing wrong with him mentally and he’s never been arrested. When asked whether he’d take a cure if it existed, he says no. When asked whether his family knows he’s gay, he says that they didn’t up until tonight, but he guesses they’re going to find out, and he’ll probably be fired from his job as well. So of course the host is like …why are you doing this interview then? and Dale Olson, cool as cucumber pie, says “I think that this way I can be a little useful to someone besides myself.”

1954. 22 years old. Balls of pure titanium.

Despite the pseudonym, Dale’s boss did indeed recognize him from the TV program, and he was promptly fired the next day. He wrote into ONE magazine six months later to reassure readers that he had gotten a new job at a higher salary.

Curious about what became of him, I looked into his life a little further. It turns out that he ultimately became a very successful publicity agent. He promoted the Rocky movies and Superman. Not only that, but get this: Dale represented Rock Hudson, and he was the person who convinced him to disclose that he had AIDS! He wrote the statement Rock read. And as we know, Rock Hudson’s disclosure had a very significant effect on the national conversation about AIDS in the U.S.

It appears that no one has made the connection between Dale Olson the publicity agent instrumental in the AIDS debate and Dale Olson the 22-year-old first openly gay man on TV. So I thought I’d make it. For Pride month, an unsung gay hero.

RATING: RELIABLE

you can listen to the clip of the 1954 interview here and find him on wikipedia here

rustpuppy:

How long would it take you to walk from your home to the nearest grocery store?

≤15 minutes

≤30 minutes

≤45 minutes

≤1 hour

≤2 hours

≤3 hours

≤6 hours

≤12 hours

>12 hours

*If you can’t walk that far or the roads to the store aren’t safe to walk just pretend you can and they are for the purposes of this poll.

gaphic:

pigcatapult:

pasteboard:

hey netizens! i’m not sure how many people are aware, but youtube’s been slowly rolling out a new anti-adblock policy that can’t be bypassed with the usual software like uBlock Origin and Pi-Hole out of the gate

BUT, if you’re a uBlock Origin user (or use an adblocker with a similar cosmetics modifier), you can add these commands in the uBlock dashboard to get rid of it!

youtube.com##+js(set, yt.config_.openPopupConfig.supportedPopups.adBlockMessageViewModel, false)

youtube.com##+js(set, Object.prototype.adBlocksFound, 0)

youtube.com##+js(set, ytplayer.config.args.raw_player_response.adPlacements, [])

youtube.com##+js(set, Object.prototype.hasAllowedInstreamAd, true)

reblog to help keep the internet less annoying and to tell corporations that try shit like this to go fuck themselves <3

Where do I copy-paste these to? “My filters”? “My Rules”?

‘my filters’! if you look closely you’ll notice the format is different between the two pages. the (website)(##)(additional text) format goes in filters